Marijuana Mama? A Woman Who Gave Her Kid Pot: Mom Talk

Today is National Pot Smoker's Day. Patch tells a true story of one mom who thought it was safer to grow her own for her 14-year-old to keep the teen from buying off the streets.

This story is absolutely shocking, and it's true. There is no Brady Bunch here.

A couple I know ended up taking in a 14-year-old boy into their home. We'll call the boy Bobby, which isn't his real name. 

Bobby was taken away from his mother, Carol. Carol admitted she was Bobby's pot dealer. She said she would rather Bobby get his drugs from her as a quality control issue.

Apparently Carol was growing it at home for them both. She said if Bobby bought the marijuana on the streets, it could be laced with something deadly.

Carol's way was safer, she claimed. 

Meanwhile, Bobby's dad, Mike, was out of the picture. Mike and Carol were divorced. He lived out of state. 

Bobby also has a 21-year-old brother who lives on his own. We'll call the brother Greg. One day, Greg came over to Carol and Bobby's house and discovered Carol was supplying pot to Bobby.

Remember, Bobby's only 14. 

So Greg called the cops on their mom. True story.

Child Protective Services came in and removed Bobby from the home. Carol was arrested. Until Mike could move back and get settled, Bobby lived with my friends. (My friends have kids in school with Bobby.)

Q: Should parents give pot to their kids to keep them safe from other drugs?

So let's flip this script a bit. Mary Jane is illegal. But what about alcohol? What if we were to insert drinking beer instead of smoking pot? Does that make the story any better?

I know a lot of people who let their children drink at home. Heck, I'm related to some. Parents justify it by saying kids are going to drink anyway, so why not keep them safe? 

Q: Should parents serve kids alcohol at home to keep them from drunk driving?

Another issue is age. How young is too young? At what age should parents be giving marijuana and beer to their children. If 14 is too young, what about 16?

Does it depend on the maturity of the child? Are there special circumstances, like a graduation party or holiday that would make serving drugs and alcohol to minors acceptable?

Q: At what age should parents give their kids pot and beer?

To protect the innocent, all of the names have been changed. Also, this story took place outside of Illinois. 

dt April 20, 2011 at 12:02 PM
an article consisting of unanswered questions?! groundbreaking...
charlies angel April 20, 2011 at 12:41 PM
I'm 49 & back when I was a teen & went to grad parties, parents did let teens drink. I was one of them. I didn't become an alcoholic or drug user. I'm not advocating it at all. If it were up to me I would raise the age limit to 25 to start with alcohol. I would never recommend smoking pot. I did try it in my teens, never liked it. I think that is where my anxiety started. It's true if you start with pot you'll graduate to another drug. Our society is so filled with prescription meds because these Dr's hand them out like candy & kids buy & sell. I worked in healthcare for 20 yrs & can't believe what goes on. Parents these days can't even set a good example for the kids. Our children mimic what we do. On the other hand you can set the best example & your child will be curious or get influenced by others. You can only do your best & hope they follow. If we advocate drugs & alcohol, why not let them drive at 12?
Paul Walaszek April 20, 2011 at 12:45 PM
Do these asinine questions really need answers? Is the writer an advocate of stupidity?
Erin Gallagher April 20, 2011 at 01:50 PM
Asinine, indeed! Unfortunately, lots of parents let their underage teens drink more than an occasional holiday glass of wine. Now that's advocating stupidity.
Lisa April 20, 2011 at 03:22 PM
I, personally, am of the mind that if you make it "ok" for your child to do _____ (fill in the blank w/whatever may apply) then it will give them the unspoken permission to do ______ (again, fill in the blank). If I allow my 14 year old to have her boyfriend in her bedroom with the door shut, should I be surprised to find out that they are not sitting in there playing connect four??? We, as parents, are not doing our kids any favors by allowing destructive behavior to take place in our homes. Shouldn't our goal be to EDUCATE our children of the ramifications of poor decisions? We teach them the food pyramid and the cycle of life - why would we not draw out for them the domino affect that drugs and alcohol can have as well? Let's look at it from the perspective of something that is not destructive...like gifts maybe. If I give my daughter a pony for her 12th birthday, will a barbie suffice for her 13th? Likewise, if a 16 year old is given a car to celebrate the occasion - what should they expect when they turn 18? 21? It seems to me that a general rule of common sense comes into play at some point!


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